Nice Things People Say
Before working with Jamie and Robbie I was feeling hopeless about “blockages” I continued to come up against in my sex life with my partner. I felt like sex was a problem or I was a problem. It was hard to understand my body and myself, to feel into my body and out of my mind, to check into what I wanted and what felt good - Sex was like a mental game for me. Constantly thinking into the next step, stressed, and occasionally leveling and relaxing. This caused a lot of damage between my partner and I. I was attracted to the stroking practice as a practice in presence, and in applying an almost meditative discipline to touch.
I was unsure about what the environment would be like and if it was the right fit for us. We ended up being met by two incredibly compassionate individuals who allowed us to feel comfortable sharing about our deepest wounds. I love that Jamie and Robbie shared the context of the practice in detail so we could have a relationship with the teachings. From there, practicing with their guidance felt supportive. My favorite part of the work is a verbal practice of identifying sensation in objective terms. It gives a language to shared intimacy that has no judgement or charge: just honest experiences of sensation and feeling that arise. To me, this is different than the script of sexuality that asks us to “be sexy” in our shares.
I think the main thing is that I see a light at the end of the tunnel through this work. It doesn’t feel like there’s something broken in me - just some more learning, and reframing to do. I understand more about how to feel into presence, and how we can make that the goal. It also became clear that I need to feel into my “no’s” and express them, which makes my yes’s more resounding as well. I also have unlocked a different sensation and way of recieving touch through the stroking practice. Overall, I feel relieved, calm, and curious about continuing to build an authentic relationship with my own sexuality - one where I am not attempting to be anything, but instead can be honest with where I’m at. Thank you Jamie and Robbie 🩷🙏
- Sophia J, 25F, LMT
I was pretty skeptical coming into this work, not because of my disbelief in the purpose, but my overaching anxiety within sexual performance anxiety and conflict in my relationship had been at an all time high. There’s a few pieces that make this experience genuinely worth having. First, is Jamie and Robbie. They both individually, and in connection, are incredible therapists who have lived through the experience they cultivate. These are sensitive practices, and trusting your coaches matters. There is not one moment that I felt judged or unsafe with other of them.
Secondly, I realized throughout that this work was never about orgasms, becoming ‘good enough,’ or even mending a relationship. This work is so much deeper than one would anticipate, and it breaks into the point of sex: finding true self connection (and therefore connection with another) through unfiltered presence. This was super uncomfortable at first, and they both held the support line beautifully. I genuinely enjoyed sharing space with them even in the difficulty.
I walked away from them having a completely different and evolved perspective on sexual engagement, for myself, as a whole and in partnership. I can confidently say that it will forever change the way in which I navigate my life forward. Everyone who cares about intimate relating should have education in these areas, at least anyone who cares about having fulfillment within it.
Easier put, I highly recommend these two.
- Tommy, 35M
Robbie and Jamie were incredibly welcoming and instantly put me at ease. I felt a little nervous entering the workshop, but their deep knowledge and friendly demeanor helped me stay grounded and calm. Robbie started by reading through the itinerary for the evening, and then we went around the room to introduce ourselves and share our backgrounds with the practice. Hearing Robbie and Jamie talk about how it has profoundly affected their own lives—along with insights from my girlfriend, who came with me—really set a beautiful, open tone for the evening.
Next, we did a clothed run-through, which provided a helpful, low-stakes visual before the live demonstration. Because of that gradual buildup, I felt entirely comfortable and prepared to witness the actual practice. They invited us to physically connect with the experience by placing a hand on Jamie’s foot during the demonstration, which brought a profound sense of shared presence and connection to the room.
Throughout the demonstration, Robbie did an excellent job of breaking down the technical upstroke and downstroke mechanics while explaining 'frames'—the practice of verbally tracking the exact physical sensations you feel in your body during a session. After the fifteen-minute practice, they wrapped up the container by answering all of our lingering questions with total clarity. Overall, it was an amazing experience. I can’t wait to start a regular practice with my girlfriend to connect on a deeper level than I ever thought possible. I highly recommend booking a session with Robbie and Jamie to learn this incredible practice.
- Eric
Jamie and Robbie provided a warm and comfortable environment to explore a real connection to intimacy and body. Their guidance was focused, measured, and walked us into the depths without any pressure or judgement. Every session was open and exploratory, which meant that we could be our truest selves and become much more aware of what we really felt and desired. It brought a whole new level of appreciation for touch, at a completely different angle than sexuality is explored in current society.
- A. Santiago