For Couples
It’s complicated. You love each other. But there are some things you’re becoming wary of bringing up. There’s history, and resentment, and stuckness, and discouragement. You want to improve things, but the conversations don’t get anywhere new.
Sex has become one of those things. One of you wants more sex than the other, and that’s tense. It’s not like it was at the beginning. It’s stressful, and sometimes you just deal with the boredom or the not really wanting it. You’re sort of resigned. It’s tolerable.
It could be so much better. You haven’t had the best sex of your life yet.
It starts with this question. Ask yourself, as if you really wanted to know the answer… How do you wish it could be? No really, if you could have it any way you wanted, what would it be like? The sex, and the connection outside of sex. Feel the longing, and the sense of distance and impossibility. These are the base materials for alchemy. These are the materials that, in the right container, can change you and your relationship and your sex life. We’d love to help.
More likely if you're a woman (but anyone can do these)
You don't ask for what you want
You might not even KNOW what you want
You don't ask to slow down as much as you would like
You feel pressure to perform, by making sure he knows you're having a really good time, by making sure that you come, by making sure that he gets what he wants.
You feel numb, you don't feel much in your pussy during sex
You want to come but you rarely (or never) do
More likely if you're a man (but anyone can do these)
You feel frustrated because you want sex more than her
You feel stressed about performing, you want to make sure she comes, make sure she has an amazing experience, make sure your cock is hard when it should be
You're bored. Now that the chase is over, the actual sex part has become repetitive or boring.